This article has been inspired by and is dedicated to my amazing clients, who courageously chose to be vulnerable, trusted in the process to identify and understand the root-cause of their suffering, who let go and smashed their blocks, and have reclaimed their power to each create their best future and life as their best self.
I am so proud of each and every one of you!
Your mind's job is to keep you safe. Hence, the reason many of us fear change and the unpredictable unknown, and choose to remain in the known, predictable, familiar past, but then wonder why we feel stuck in life, unhappy and unfulfilled.
You can be the creator of your desired life - in fact you're hardwired to be a Creator. So choose today to stop self-sabotaging; do not allow yourself to keep suffering. You have the power to change (there's that word again) thoughts, behaviours and habits empowering you to remove the pain and blocks that are not serving you and are holding you back?
LEARN THE SCIENCE & RULES OF THE MIND
The following information is based on the science of neuroplasticity and the proven teachings of some of my favourite, internationally acclaimed mentors, including Marisa Peer, Dr Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden,
Mel Robbins and Dr Bruce Lipton.
The first thing you need to understand is that when you are not in the present, you're running a program. You might find it surprising to learn that 95% of each day most of us are running a program (unconscious mind).
Paying attention is being present, and it is a real skill.
You know when someone is really with you in your life because they're paying attention to you. And, you know when they're not present because they're not paying attention. We've all been in a conversation where it's obvious the other person isn't present. Their attention is elsewhere. The first indicator is a lack of eye contact. This can easily trigger feelings of resentment, unworthiness and rejection. And, if we're honest, we've been that person too.
RULES OF THE MIND
Your thoughts form a blueprint that your Mind and body work to make your reality.
So, how can your mind pay attention and create for you, when you're not in the present? It can't! When your thoughts, habits and behaviours are running on the program of the known past, it can only deliver a predictable future. Same in, same out. But, if you can hit that sweet spot of the generous present moment - if you keep practicing overcoming the conditions in your body, overcoming the conditions in your environment, overcoming that predictable, familiar past and you keep working for the present, you are going to develop the habit of being present.
RULES OF THE MIND
Whatever you focus on you get more of.
Where you place your attention is where you place your energy, and when you're in the present, and you're in the present moment, you've got a lot of energy to execute - you've got a lot of energy to design a destiny with.
RULES OF THE MIND
Your Mind does not care if what you say is good, bad, indifferent, true, false, healthy, unhealthy, right or wrong. It simply acts on your words (thoughts & pictures) regardless.
We all have the ability to create. However, you need to make up your mind that creating your fabulous vision and future is more important than anything else, and when you imagine it, you need to see it with so much detail and, even more importantly feel and emotionally connect to your vision of the future - emotionally feel that possibility. And, the moment you feel that emotion, you are connected to your future. When you know that no thing, no person, no experience will stand in the way between you and that future, feeling this connection to your future, feeling the inspiration, the joy, feeling excitement, exuberance and the love for your future every day, just like your body follows your mind to bed at night or to the shower or Nespresso machine in the morning, to the known, your body is going to follow your mind right into that future. It can't not follow, because that's where your attention is.
If it isn't happening in your life, then there's some emotion, an unconscious attitude or thought process hardwired, there's some habituation of thought, behaviour or emotional reaction that's keeping you as you.
RULES OF THE MIND
What you present to your Mind, your Mind will present back to you.
When your personality creates your personal reality, and it does, and your personality is made of how you think, how you act and feel, then the present personality who is reading this article, has created the present personality called his or her life.
To create a new personal reality, a new life, means you're going to have to change your personality - stop thinking about what you've been thinking about - that 95% - and change it. You need to become conscious of your unconscious habits and behaviours, how you speak, especially to yourself, and flip them; you need to look at those emotions that keep you chained to your past. You need to ask yourself "Does this emotion belong in my future?" And, if it doesn't, you must choose to let it go, including the memory associated with it.
RULES OF THE MIND
The Mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs. They cancel each other out.
Most people try to create a new personal reality as the same personality, and this just doesn't work. We literally have to become someone else. The act of becoming is a function of overcoming, but that does mean you have to light a match in a dark place; you need to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Whenever, you hear that monkey chattering in your ear "I can't do it. It's too hard. I'll never change. It's my Ex's fault, it's my parents or boss's fault, I'm too this, to that, I'm too old, too tired, not smart enough, not good enough, I don't deserve to be happy ..." those thoughts are the boundary of the known. And now, when you step out into new territory, the body that's been conditioned to be the mind emotionally is saying "Stop, don't go, don't leave the known here - stick with the old, the pain, the suffering, it's much better and safer than the unknown - at least it's predictable and familiar."
But when your other, conscious, mind is feeling it's ready and it's time for an adventure your body will go "whoa, what are you doing?" Be ready for that initial struggle. It may take a little time to help the body out of the past. It takes a bit of effort and practice. Like when you're meditating.
You can't have a great meditation and feel really connected, then get up and start feeling annoyed with people. You can't come from having an amazing meditation, and get frustrated with other drivers on the road, or people at work, or feel annoyed that after queuing at the cafe for ages, your coffee is luke warm. When you start judging everybody and when you allow yourself to get triggered like that, you're disconnecting from the energy of your future and going back to the energy of the past. The mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs and emotions. They cancel each other out. So you cannot expect change.
Become aware of your thoughts and feelings.
As soon as you start blaming another person or a situation, you are back to the unconscious program, of being a victim in your life. You have a 90 second window to interrupt such thoughts and feelings.
Dr Joe Dispenza calls it a grace period of transformation, where we have to cross the river from the old self to the new self.
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